Survival Isn’t Living: Learning to Breathe, with Kenny Mammarella-D-Cruz
In this extraordinary episode, Kenny Mammarella-D’Cruz - known as The Man Whisperer - opens up about a life that began in chaos and fear: fleeing Idi Amin’s Uganda, growing up in a refugee camp, and becoming the emotional crutch for his family at just seven years old. He shares how these early traumas buried his identity and left him riddled with compulsions, anxiety, and isolation.
It’s not just survival. It’s the slow, deliberate undoing of a life built on fear.
Kenny takes us inside his transformation: how he stopped running from fear and started breathing again. He reveals the tools he developed to shift from hypervigilance to being present, from people-pleasing to personal power. Along the way, he explores the difference between surviving and living, how men can heal their inner child without discarding him, and why presence - not perfection - is the path to wholeness.
You’ll hear:
- How trauma can quietly shape a man’s identity, even if his past isn’t as dramatic as Kenny’s.
- What it takes to set boundaries when you’ve spent your life putting others first.
- Why the protector in us often keeps us trapped and how to gently take the reins.
- How Kenny started men’s groups before they were fashionable, simply because he needed real conversation.
- The critical difference between boys who fear and men who feel.
This is not just one man’s survival tale - it’s a masterclass in reclaiming your life. If you’ve ever felt like you’re playing a role in your own life, this episode will speak directly to you.
Find out more about Kenny’s men’s groups and tools for presence at https://www.themanwhisperer.co.uk/
